How sad that many in our nation seem to have a warped insatiable appetite for sex and violence. How sad that a movie like “Fifty Shades of Grey” would be promoted as a “must see” for Valentine’s Day, and that people flocked to see it in hundreds of cities boasting of sold-out showtimes on opening day.How sad that something classified as poorly written erotic fiction would even be deemed as “movie worthy.” How sad that a movie portraying narcissism, masochism, and sadism would be viewed as normal or even a desirable sexual experience.
Fifty Shades of Grey is about abuse—a total disregard for human life—a reality all too common in our culture. It’s a perversion that’s been around since the fall of mankind. As early as the third chapter of Genesis Eve fell prey to a desire for something that God had said was off limits because it was not good for her and Adam. In the next chapter one of their sons killed the other. By the time we get to chapter 6:5-7 we read these words: The Lord saw how great the wickedness of the human race had become on the earth, and that every inclination of the thoughts of the human heart was only evil all the time.
The Lord regretted that he had made human beings on the earth, and his heart was deeply troubled. So the Lord said, “I will wipe from the face of the earth the human race I have created—and with them the animals, the birds and the creatures that move along the ground—for I regret that I have made them.” Then the flood came and washed away everything except Noah, his family, and two of every living creature.
However, as man began to repopulate the earth, sin of every kind imaginable once again bore its ugly fruit. In 2 Samuel chapters 13-14 we read the sordid story of how David’s children followed in his footsteps by committing horrific crimes, namely incest, rape and murder. Furthermore, David did not seem to do anything about any of the crimes. Oh, he got furious, but that was the extent of it. Because he neglected to address issues with his children, he opened the door for them to commit some version of the same sins he committed—adultery, murder, deception, etc.
My heart is sick over the alarming statistics about domestic violence and rape in our country. According to RAINN “every 107 seconds another American is sexually assaulted.” And 1 out of 5 women have experienced some level of sexual abuse. 1 in 4 women have or will be the victim of domestic violence, and most of them are never reported (Safehorizon).”Men who as children witnessed their parents’ domestic violence [are] were twice as likely to abuse their own wives than sons of nonviolent parents” (Domestic Violence Statistics).
When someone swears you to secrecy about what’s happening in your relationship, all kinds of red flags should go up in your mind. When someone tells you that the harm he is inflicting upon you be it physical or verbal is for your good, or because the perpetrator loves you, or that you deserve what he is doing to you, it’s a lie. LOVE DOES NOT HURT DAY AFTER DAY.
When it comes to lovemaking, God gave it as an expression of intimacy between two people who are committed to one another for a lifetime. He did not give it for one partner to enjoy and the other to endure. Pleasure derived from hurting someone is evil. Letting someone hurt you repeatedly is abnormal.
Millions of women today are subjected to physical and/or verbal abuse daily in the privacy of their own home. Dominated by someone eaten up with narcissism they are whipped into submission either physically or verbally.
Let me be clear. The Bible clearly states that a woman is supposed to be submissive to her husband and to respect him. However, that does not mean she is to become a doormat or treated as a thing to be used by any other person. Instead, she should be cherished and loved like Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25-29).
In preparation for our study today I asked Waylon, my husband, what the Bible says about rape. This is what he said, “Many passages in the Bible speak to the issue of rape. Passages like being kind to one another, loving your neighbor as yourself, doing to others as you would have them do to you, as well as, what Jesus said about lust and what Paul said to husbands about not being harsh with their wives slam the door long before it comes to rape.”
The same is true about domestic violence. Domestic violence is ‘fifty shades of wrong.” Rape and any form of sexual abuse is “fifty shades of wrong.” Neither fall into the grey category. They are abhorrent to God (Deuteronomy 22:25-27).
When are we going to wake up and call these heinous crimes what they are—evil?
When are we going to stop supporting whatever trash the box office offers?
At the Oscars Sunday evening, Melanie Griffith, the mother of Dakota Johnson, who stars in “Fifty Shades of Grey” was asked if she had seen the movie. You may be surprised at how she responded, “No, I don’t think I can.” Though her daughter was angry and the reporter encouraged Griffith to see the movie, she clearly resisted. Jim Denison in Denison Forum on Truth and Culture asks THE question: “If a film is so immoral that a mother can’t see her daughter act in it, why should anyone else see it?” http://www.denisonforum.org/cultural-commentary/1382-actress-mother-refuses-to-see-fifty-shades
I rest my case.
Gracious Father, when we think about the sexually charged and unrestrained violent culture we live in, it’s hard to breathe. Countless women were victimized today, and those who have already been exploited are too many to count. I ask you to be near those women –even men, especially little boys who have been taken advantage of or abused today. Please put someone in their paths to comfort and support them. Give them strength and courage to get out of any unhealthy relationships. Heal their minds and bodies and make them whole again. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.